reading list
The freedom to have access to books and to be able to read them in peace is one that I will never take for granted. It really bothered my husband that I read so much, so I had to hide it. Not only did it take attention away from him, but this “secret” reading list enabled me to educate myself about what I was experiencing in our marriage, develop tools to cope, find the strength and courage to leave and finally recover and heal.
Why Does He Do That?
This book was given to me by a friend who could see what I couldn’t see– that I was in an abusive relationship. It opened my eyes to the reality of what I was up against, how to cope and seek the proper help.
The Road Back to Me
When I read this book I felt that the author was speaking directly to me. I’ve read all of her books and subscribed to her YouTube channel. Lisa Romano offered me hope, understanding and a way out. She is the inspiration for my blog.
Healing from Hidden Abuse
Compassionate and well researched, this is a must read for anyone who has experienced emotional and psychological abuse. The author gives clarity and insight into this often indescribable kind of trauma.
Whole Again
By the same author of Psychopath Free, (yes, that is an actual title of a book) which helps you recognize and identify your immediate situation and break free. This book offers multiple strategies and exercises to heal and move on long after you escape.
The Drama of the Gifted Child
The title here reflects the extraordinary talent and will it takes to endure and survive childhood trauma thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb….It affirmed to me that I really am a strong and powerful person and helped in my journey to reclaim my life.
The Betrayal Bond
This is one of the books recommended by my therapist. It focuses on how the brain is programmed from past experiences that draw you to and attract abusive partners. It is an in-depth study of these relationships; why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful.
The Sociopath Next Door
I know this sounds like the title of a psychological thriller or horror movie, but that is necessary to emphasize how common and pervasive these types of people are and how hard it is to spot them. They could be your neighbor, your co-worker or, as in my case, the man you married.
Out of the Fog
Throughout my marriage and immediately after I left, I felt like I was in a FOG, which is an acronym that stands for “Fear, Obligation, and Guilt.” These three emotions are often at the core of how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotionally abusive manipulators go about controlling their targets.
