Right after I left my narcissistic, abusive husband, I was consumed with fear that other women would fall prey to his manipulative tactics. Since he could never be alone, I knew he’d be on the prowl for his next victim ASAP. Even though I had no way of knowing what women he was dating, I wished I could find a way to warn them. I’m sure this is a natural and normal reaction that abuse survivors have, however, everything I read said that warning them could backfire since Mr. smooth talker and master con artist was able to fool me, chances are his new girlfriends would believe his pack of lies too.
I quickly realized that my fears were unfounded because his girlfriends somehow found a way to find me. As I rebuilt my life and made new friends, it seemed like every woman I came in contact with had dated him. Seriously. I’m not exaggerating. This guy really got around. One new girlfriend I met at the gym, another while stand up paddle boarding in the harbor, a few in restaurants and night spots and one actually found me on the Internet and called me. All of them told me that they immediately picked up on his erratic behavior– heavy drinking, lying and non stop talking about himself. I guess he just can’t seem to fool anyone anymore and I’m sure he sees that as their fault. I mean, what is it with these women???
I was most intrigued by the woman who called me. I asked her what prompted her to look me up. She said she introduced Varg to one of her male friends. They had drinks together and afterward her friend said to her, “Something is not right about this guy. You should look into his background.” When I told her my side of the story, I could almost feel her body trembling through the phone. She promptly broke it off with him. I felt sad for her because she was so disappointed. She pined, “I was everything he wanted,” to which I replied, “That may be true, but I guarantee you he’s nothing that you ever wanted.”
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