My name is Beth and I am a twice divorced single woman and the proud mother of two beautiful, intelligent and lovely adult daughters. Their father was my first husband; a kind, sensitive and loving man. We separated and divorced amicably in 2002 when he came out of the closet as gay. It was a heartbreak for both of us, but with dignity and grace we maintained a positive coparenting relationship and to this day remain good friends. He’s an all around great guy.
My second husband, not so much.
If I had to characterize Varg * in one word if would be: sociopath. My marriage to him was a train wreck, fraught with one hysterical crisis after another. The best way I can describe it is to say that I was caught up in a vortex of crazy making chaos that was designed to manipulate me, throw me off balance and keep me trapped by a narcissistic monster of a husband who had absolutely no scruples, morals or empathy.
Our union lasted 12 years and for most of that time I walked on eggshells, apprehensively waiting for his next big blow up. When I wasn’t enduring his soul crushing, demoralizing and humiliating verbally, emotionally and psychologically abusive tirades, I was getting his stoney silent treatment, that usually lasted for days. I finally left him on the morning of January 31, 2018, after he physically assaulted me.
It had taken me almost 4 years to recover and stabilize myself both emotionally and financially. I now wake up every morning in a state of euphoric joy that I am no longer married to that bastard.
I decided to start this blog so I could share with the world my story to offer insight, inspiration, guidance, clarity, knowledge, resources and above all, hope, that there is a way out of abusive relationships and the possibility of true happiness is possible.
* Varg is the Swedish word for “wolf.” I call him this because, not only is he a wolf in sheep’s clothing, the word sounds like ARRGH!, which is pretty much how I feel about him.
Note: The content of this blog is from my perspective and is by no means meant to diagnose or treat any mental health condition. I am not a therapist. If you feel you are in need of treatment please seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions regarding your mental health. All names and some identifying details have been changed to protect privacy.
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